Neil Tambe

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I'm a Detroiter who happens to enjoy writing, national parks, orange juice, the performing arts, and fanciful socks. More than anything though, I aspire to be a good husband, father, and citizen.

“Kids have the courage to do hard things when they’re little, how do we shake it out of them?”​

“Kids have the courage to do hard things when they’re little, how do we shake it out of them?” 

Mark, a good friend from Ross, and I discussed this question for minute over dinner with his business partner. 

His colleague thought competition may have a negative effect because it often breeds fear. Robyn pointed out to me this morning that the way we approach schooling is to achieve obedience instead of exploration.

It occurred to me just now that a parent can have a mindset of “what do I want my kid to be able to do” vs “in what ways do I want my kid to grow”.

My guess is that if a parent has the former mindset, it probably makes it harder to grow courage. The latter is probably a mindset that encourages courage.  

On the question of why some kids lose courage as they age, what do you think?

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