Struggle is a part of life. The question is how will I deal with it?
One path is a transfer. This is when I take my pain and suffering and put it into someone else’s shoulders.
Another path is self-transformation. This is when I improve my own ability to deal with pain and suffering.
A third path is denial. This is when I delude and distract myself so I can pretend the pain and suffering doesn’t exist or isn’t that bad.
The fourth path is collaborative. This is when I work to alleviate or better handle my own pain and suffering in a way that helps or teaches others do the same.
I don’t know if there is an always “right” path. There are probably times and places where each path is the most right (or most possible).
What I’ve realized to be true is that every person, no matter what phase of life they are in, is struggling in some way that is significant. Whether rich or poor, young or old, healthy or sick - everyone has some real struggle.
If that is true, however, some of the four paths seem less reasonable than others. If I know with certainty that the person in front of me is struggling, how do I dump more on them or deny the struggle in the first place?
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