A Reflection Tool: Highs and Lows
Every night (almost) at dinner, Robyn and I talk about highs, lows, and proud moments.
Heres how it works:
- One us asks - “What we’re your highs, lows, and proud moments?”
- That persons shares
- Then we switch
This is a nice ritual for us for a few reasons:
- We catch up on the day
- We get to read each other’s emotional state and energy
- We get to vent if we need to and move on
- We get to cherish life’s sweet but little moments
But more than anything it’s a lens into our values and a check to ensure that we’re not valuing the wrong things.
For example, if I said my proud moment is “I made a lot of money today”, I’m revealing something about what I’m valuing. I’m forcing myself to say it out loud and acknowledge it.
And in that moment, I can correct myself and choose to find a different moment to be proud of that aligns with my true values instead of society’s. And that course correction retrains my brain on what I want to and should be proud of.
It’s a great reflection practice that’s very effective, but very quick and easy.