When it seems all we can do is acquiesce to rage and cruelty, love strikes back.
All in Building Character
We Yearn For The Next Mile of Freedom
Every generation yearns for that next mile toward freedom. So do we.
Expanding Identity: Lessons from ‘Master of Change’
I've discovered the power of diversifying my identity, inspired by insights from 'Master of Change' by Brad Stulberg.
2023: The Year of ‘Not Helpless’
2023 taught me a powerful lesson: facing fears and owning up to my choices proves that, really, we're never helpless.
The people who know us intimately and fully.
I’ve become more compassionate over the years, but I’m not sure why.
An exercise in The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.
The easy path is attractive. But what would that make me? What would that make us?
To break the cycle, I must engage in self-purification that results in direct action.
The power of listening is that it creates bonds of love and ultimately, goodness.
“I hope you are persuaded that our freedom, from the ever growing reach of rules and institutions, is inextricably linked to goodness. But for that to happen, more and more people have to choose the work to walk the path of goodness, rather than power. And that my sons, starts with us and the choices we make every day of our lives.“
Listening is a skill that builds character. To build the capacity to listen, I need to be comfortable with discomfort.
For sure, every person is capable of terrible things. But we, as men, don’t have to believe the delusion that we were born with a monster inside us. We have to stop believing that. We can build our identity as men around the parts of us that are most good.
If listening is the key to love, relationships, and trust, choosing to show up is the key to listening.
Thinking about how to treat aliens, helps us think about how we treat each other.
What has given me organizing principles for living is thinking honestly about what I would be contemplating in the waning moments of my own life.
The greatest of all choices is choosing whether or not to be a good person.
The question of how to raise good children starts with figuring out how to be a good person myself.
Learning how to win ugly is an essential skill. And yet, I feel like the world has conspired to keep me from learning it.
They key to finding our purpose is setting goals with much longer time scales.