18 Michigan Summers
18 Michigan summers. That’s all the childhood we get with each kid before they fly.
For us that equates to a span of about 25 years of golden days across our oldest son and our youngest nephew (so far). We’ve got 18 left, including this one that’s already half lived.
18 more summers of boats and tubing. Of ice cream and s’mores. 18 more summers of backyard tennis and soccer. Of charcuterie picnics on the riverfront. 18 more summers of “cousin time” and a rotation of board games when the warm summer rain is falling and thundering up north. 18 more summers of late mornings preceded by 18 last days of school. 18 more summers of fishing with their uncle off the back of their Granddad’s boat. Of sandals, swimming, golf, and playing tennis at Palmer Park on a whim. 18 more summers snacking on fresh, seasonal fruit in the cool of their Dadi’s basement and munching on their Mimi’s “disappearing” guacamole. 18 more Michigan summers of campfires, hikes, and watching the lightning bugs glow up our little patch of grass in the big city.
We will have more summers than these, God willing, and those will be special in other ways. They just won’t be the golden summers of bona fide childhood.
These summers don’t feel fleeting, which is strange. The rest of our life is urgent, driven by a schedule that constantly nibbles away our time. But this is not. Michigan summers pass quickly, but a full childhood of them unfolds over a long time, in big gulps. It can’t be managed with a calendar and checklists. There is no app for this.
All we can do is savor these times. We can fill ourselves up on those gulps of sunshine and trees and splashes of the lake, holding onto them as long as we can before Labor Day marks the onset of fall. We cannot stop it, but we can linger and soak it all in.
Maybe this is why we have our long Michigan goodbyes — one more chat, an extra hug, before we part from family and friends we already can’t imagine leaving. We linger in the warmth of summer sunshine because we know it ends too quickly. We hold onto those gulps as long as we can, because we know we must.
The truth of our precious 18 summers cannot be changed. This is a truth of life in our lake-plentiful state. But we feel blessed to have them. And if they must be finite, at least we know how to appreciate and savor them.
We are in the car, driving home from our longstanding tradition — a week with family up north over the Fourth of July. My mind is renewed and my heart is full. And it’s hitting me that all we have left is 17 and a half summers. And for Robert, our oldest, less than ten.
That thought could easily sadden me. 17 and a half is not a lot of anything, not when it’s the measure of a childhood. But I don’t keep count out of anxiety. I keep count as a way to linger — to savor these summers before our kids fly out into the world.
